An Unapologetic Commitment to Self-Fulfillment

In 2018 we explored self-care as something of an experiment, a way to see what kinds of activities could help us with the more immediate, every-day balance in our lives. We had grown tired of seeing faddish versions of self-care and longed for something a little more sustainable. Something with a little more substance.

Success! We not only landed on a few habits that made a big difference to our general feeling of well-being, but some of them have worked so well that we found sticking with them gave the rest of the year a whole lot more flow and ease.

With a better idea of what truly support us on a daily basis, we started noticing a shift in our self-care conversations towards something more elusive…

Maybe it’s because the time of year with resolutions aplenty and we’re thinking more deeply about what would really make us feel happy in the coming year, or even further down the road. Or maybe because we’ve started meeting our immediate self-care needs, we have the luxury of more brainspace to consider things differently.

Either way, the questions that we were asking in our Handled team coffee klatches have been real whoppers…

What would make us feel more accomplished as a whole?

What would help us feel like we’re progressing towards the realization of our bigger dreams?

As the caffeine kicked in from our steaming dirty chai lattes, we adjusted our thick rimmed glasses and got all intellectual on the topic. We can only imagine what the people at the neighbouring table at the Nespresso café must have thought when it dawned on us —

Could different modes or types of self-care somehow match up along Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs?

There’s more than than a passing similarity, for sure. Maybe our terminology has just progressed from the scientific to pop culture, but a quick Google search showed us we’re not the first to match these ideas up.

It’s just that it’s so much more critical to our survival to take care of those foundational parts of the pyramid that we often don’t reach the top of it!

So, if Abe Maslow thought it was important (can we call him Abe?), well then, moving up the hierarchy can’t be ignored any more.

Forget the splash pool, kids. We’re in the deep end now!

In the first edition of our Self-Care Experiment we found a few ways to satisfy our ‘physiological,’ ‘safety,’ and ‘social’ needs. The bottom three levels of Maslow’s pyramid! Check! Check! Check!

This time around, we want to explore some of the things we’ve always wanted to do – but for one reason or another – just haven’t gotten around to it.

What will happen if we finally lasso our dreams and dare to turn some of them into realities this year?

Some might call it a Bucket List. Maslow would call them ‘esteem’ and ‘self-actualization’ needs. For us, it’s about personal exploration which we’re gonna call a an unapologetic commitment to self-fulfillment.

As we daydreamed about the things we always wanted to do, the theme of creative expression came up on repeat – not coincidentally, that happens to be one of the keys to Maslow’s definition of self-actualization at the tippy top of his pyramid.

So, that’s exactly what we’re going to pursue.

Over the next months, we’re going to exercise and try out some of our deeper self-care needs – self-fulfillment through creative expression. We can’t wait to see what happens!

Are you with us?

What have you always wanted to do? Let us know in a comment below.

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